Stonewalling and Unhappy Relationships

Within two minutes of earlier conversation, the man had stopped responding. He was sending a clear message to his wife that the argument had escalated too quickly and too destructively. He was done and he wanted to disengage and withdraw from the conversation. This is called stonewalling, according to Gottman, …

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Why Is Contempt So Bad for Relationships?

So why is contempt so detrimental to a relationship? Because according to Gottman, the leading researcher on relationships and couples therapy, expressing contempt is the same as expressing disgust! Think about the last time you ate something really disgusting: sour milk, moldy fruit, etc. Aside from probably making a face …

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