If you can’t help yourself and you criticize your partner a lot in your relationship, then what you probably hear back are comments full of contempt. As deleterious as criticism is, according to Gottman the existence of contempt in a […]
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Ok so you criticize…a lot. At least you acknowledge it and you admit it. Honestly, that’s a huge step right there! But as we know, and as Gottman has proven repeatedly, overuse of criticism as a way of communicating your
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“I can’t believe you forgot to take out the trash again.” “You never buy me flowers.” “You always think of yourself first.” Sometimes such exasperated comments come out so easily, don’t they? Unfortunately, they’re all examples of Gottman’s first “horseman”,
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Psychologist Dr. John Gottman has done extensive research on more than 2,000 married couples over the last 30 years and has identified 4 specific communication patterns within a relationship that determine whether the couple has a successful or failed relationship.
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Recently, I was having dinner at a restaurant and I happened to overhear a pretty heated argument between a couple. They seemed to be married and in their early 30s. It went something like this: Woman: God, I am so
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Unhealthy patterns of communication come in all shapes and sizes. Here are articles addressing the common unhealthy relationship patterns in South Asian couples:
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